Proactive Helpfulness: Don't Ask, Just Do the Dishes
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A short reflection on proactive vs. passive helpfulness, using the metaphor of doing dishes after dinner. The author contrasts those who ask "Can I help?" with those who simply start helping, and a commenter adds nuance about the importance of asking how to help in a way that's actually desired.
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· 3 pulledThere are two kinds of people after dinner: Those who ask, 'Can I help?' And those who are already doing the dishes. One sounds helpful. One is.
Don't wait for permission. Do the dishes.
I kind of agree, but I prefer to think it's people ask how they can best help.
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