Why I Stopped Arguing for Technical Correctness and Started Prioritizing Relationships

Summary

A software engineer reflects on their past habit of aggressively arguing for technical correctness in every setting — code reviews, meetings, and personal conversations. They recount how this approach, rooted in a belief that logic and truth would always prevail, often backfired: winning arguments but losing relationships. The piece explores the emotional and social costs of being "right" at all costs, and the personal journey toward more empathetic communication and letting go of the need to correct others.

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