Making Friends As An Adult Requires Directness, Not Tricks
By
Alex Sujong Laughlin
Summary
The author reflects on how she made friends after moving to Lancaster, Pennsylvania, by simply introducing herself to people in various settings. Despite not considering herself particularly social, she found that direct, low-pressure approaches led to meaningful connections. The piece challenges the idea that there's a "simple trick" to adult friendship, suggesting instead that consistent, genuine effort and vulnerability are key.
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· 3 pulledI do not think of myself as a particularly social person. I am in bed with a book most nights by 8:00 p.m.
I watched with amusement as most people told versions of the same story: me walking up to them at work, at the coffee shop, at the farmer's market, and introducing myself.
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