3 therapist-designed communication tools to help couples resolve conflict
By
Aditi Shrikant
Summary
This article presents three therapist-designed communication tools for couples to resolve conflict: using "I statements," asking about a partner's ideal dream, and transcribing the partner's argument. It highlights that couples often get stuck in conflict because they don't feel heard, and emphasizes the importance of expressing validation during fights. The advice comes from Caroline Fleck, a clinical instructor at Stanford University.
Source

Key quotes
· 3 pulledOver the course of a 20-minute argument people are just repeating the same points
They're coming out in different ways, but they are repeating the same point because they don't feel heard.
Many couples get stuck in conflict because they don't feel understood by their partner.
You might also wanna read

AI Mediation Tools for Resolving Conflicts in Development Teams
The article discusses how AI mediation can help resolve conflicts in development teams, such as disagreements over coding styles or implemen
DEV Community·11mo agoWe2: AI-Powered App Generates Personalized Conversation Questions for Couples
We2 is an AI-powered mobile app designed to help couples improve their relationships through personalized conversation prompts. The app gene
Why Dialogue Unlocks Solutions That Solo Thinking Cannot
The article explores the phenomenon of how conversational dialogue with another person can unlock solutions to complex problems more effecti
Dermatologists advised on tactful communication strategies for challenging clinical conversations
An expert at the Society for Pediatric Dermatology 2026 pre-AAD meeting discusses strategies for navigating challenging clinical conversatio
The Impact of Therapy-Speak on Personal Identity
The article discusses how therapy-speak has influenced language, affecting how people talk about relationships and self-identity. It critici
Why I Stopped Arguing for Technical Correctness and Started Prioritizing Relationships
A software engineer reflects on their past habit of aggressively arguing for technical correctness in every setting — code reviews, meetings

Comments
Sign in to join the conversation.
No comments yet. Be the first.