The Personal Cost of Thriving Under Work Pressure: When Professional Success Comes at Family Expense
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6mo ago· 7 min readenOpinion
90/100
Golden Brown
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Summary
The author reflects on their tendency to thrive under work pressure and high-stakes projects, describing it as a dopamine-fueled 'high sensation seeking' behavior. They acknowledge that while this approach makes them professionally productive, it comes at a significant personal cost: when work is stressful, they become irritable at home, leaving their family on the 'losing end' of this seesaw dynamic. The article explores the tension between having endless professional bandwidth for revenue-generating problems and zero emotional bandwidth for loved ones, concluding with the need to design a system that captures work rewards without exporting stress costs to family life.
Key quotes
· 5 pulledI've always worked better under pressure. High workload. Making things happen fast. Multiple projects I actually believe in. That's when I'm at my best.
The more projects on my plate, the more I want to take on. It's like a dopamine rush. Extra fuel to go even harder.
My family is always on the losing end. I have endless professional bandwidth for revenue-generating problems and zero emotional bandwidth for the people I love.
Apparently it's called 'high sensation seeking' - linked to dopamine. Work under pressure gives me a hit. Playing blocks with my toddler doesn't.
I need to design a system that captures the work reward without exporting the stress cost. Still figuring that part out.
I've always thrived on high workload, making things happen fast, multiple projects I believe in. That's when I'm at my best. But there's a pattern: the calmer work is, the calmer I am at home. The more stressed work is, the more irritable I am at home. It
