Personal Experience with Cyberstalking and Selective Agency
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Summary
The article is a personal narrative about the author's experience with a cyberstalker that began during their poker playing days and escalated when they entered rehab. The stalker, based in India, believed they had a close personal relationship with the author and interpreted tweets as coded messages. When the author stopped tweeting for two months during rehab, the stalker tracked down their contact information and began spamming them. The article explores themes of selective agency, personal boundaries, and the psychological dynamics of stalking behavior in the context of capable individuals who may not be trying to protect themselves from such situations.
Key quotes
· 4 pulledTwo things happened for me over the holidays five years ago: I went to rehab, and I acquired a cyberstalker.
The stalker was someone in India who'd started following me when I was playing poker, who came to believe we had a close personal relationship and that my tweets were coded messages to him.
When I stopped tweeting for two months, he became convinced something had happened to me, so he tracked down my email and phone number and started spamming me with messages demanding to know where I was.
By the time I realized this was happening, he'd already...
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