Advice Column: Navigating the Decision to Have Children When You're on the Fence at 42
By
Justin Ellis
Slow-proofed and worth the wait. Worth its weight in flour.
Summary
An advice column response to a 42-year-old couple uncertain about having children. The writer addresses the dilemma of deciding whether to have kids when neither partner feels a strong desire but biological clocks are ticking. The article explores the reasons for and against parenthood, the pressure of time, and how to make peace with either decision.
Key quotes
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We're both 42, so actual biological clocks are ticking down even if the metaphorical one isn't.
I've got a bunch of pretty sound reasons why bringing a child into the world might not be the best idea.
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