College Student Seeks Advice on Coping with Lifelong Loneliness
By
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Crisped on the outside, thoughtful enough on the inside.
Summary
A 19-year-old college student shares their lifelong struggle with loneliness and inability to form lasting friendships. They describe having no friends, an empty phone, and difficulty maintaining connections even when people initially show interest. The student questions whether their appearance, humor, or intelligence might be to blame, despite trying various approaches and reading books on the topic. They express deep emotional pain from the lack of meaningful human connection and seek advice on coping with this persistent loneliness.
Key quotes
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My phone is empty, when I go to school nobody talks to me and when I do find people who seem to have some kind of interest in me, it usually doesn't last very long since they don't prioritize whatever we have.
I've attributed my lack of friends to something that places all the blame on me. Maybe I'm ugly, maybe I'm not funny enough, maybe I'm dumb.
I've tried so many different things, I've read so many different books and yet I still can't get anyone to even bother to ask me how my day was or care to actually do something and hang out with me.
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