Why women over-apologize: Exploring gender, social conditioning, and the debate over who needs to change
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Avni Trivedi
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Summary
This article examines the phenomenon of women over-apologizing, exploring whether the issue is that women apologize too much or that society should normalize apologizing more. It features perspectives from experts and individuals like Gabriela Cryan, who apologize even when not at fault. The piece delves into the social conditioning, power dynamics, and gender expectations behind excessive apologizing, and considers whether the solution is for women to apologize less or for everyone to adopt a more empathetic, apology-friendly culture.
Key quotes
· 3 pulledI feel like a lot of times I say 'sorry' in situations that are truly not my fault.
Even though, in my eyes, I'm not taking accountability, other people may think I'm taking accountability because I'm saying 'sorry.'
I'm sorry if this is a dumb question. I'm sorry to both
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